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Motivation and Discipline

Hey Friends,

How are you?  I thought I would take a minute to chat about MOTIVATION,  something that I know everyone struggles with including myself! 

There are many things that motivate us, but finding them is not the main problem.  The deeper issue for me always seems to be D-I-S-C-I-P-L-I-N-E.  That simple word that you can’t get anything done without.  It is easy to do things when you are feeling good and things are on track, but what about the other 364 days of the year when life is happening? 

I can’t tell you all the nights I layed awake until the wee hours with grand visions of my dreams dancing in my head, only to awaken to the same old junk.  Did I do anythig to change it you ask?  No, but I am pretty sure I did my fair share of complaining and being jealous of the people who appeared to have it all.  Now I am not  proud of this, but c’mon, this was way easier than actually doing something about it!  Looking back on those miserable days I realize I was lacking DISCIPLINE!  Yes I worked, and yes I worked out, and YES I even thought I was eating right!  What GIVES?!  Well, Lo and behold!  I was not consistant in anything, and I was not doing anything to get out of my current situation because that would mean I would need to change a lot of things that I was comfortable with in my life.  Deep down I knew I would have to let go of some really unhealthy habbits and relationships and that scared me to death! 

It was not until I got a serious wake-up call from my husband and some family members who basically said they were sick of hearing me whine about it (bless their hearts) and not take any action.   After the “how dare they” and “they’ll never understand!” thoughts past,  I decided to put my ”big girl pants” on and sit down and clearly define what I wanted for my life, and also what kind of person I wanted to be.  When I started really looking at the lives of the people who were  living their dreams, I realized that they all had a quite a few things in common.  They all had to start somewhere, they all failed in something, they all worked non-stop to reach their goals, they were all surrounded by successful, supportive people, and they all never gave up on themselves. 

Now, I know that it appears as though people who “have it all” are fearless, but let me tell you something, those people are NO different than you!  The only difference is that they have mastered the art of hiding their fear, and faking it ’till they make it!  Everyone has doubts when they try anything new.  You don’t grow unless you are pushing yourself out of your comfort zone on a daily basis.  Nobody wakes up good at something!  It takes dedication, sacrifice and practice.  Living in discomfort for a while is better than living with regret!  

It does not matter what your dream or goal is, if you keep working eventually you will find what you are looking for.  My journey has brought me to so many different places.  In the process of chasing down one dream I have been totally surprised by finding something I love even more!  If you stay disciplined and balanced life gives you rewards in the most surprising ways.

Surround yourself with positivity and never lose sight of your dreams and who you are.  You are here for a reason and it is unfair to rob the world of your talents!

Much Love,

Lori Harder


Winning Miss Bikini Universe

Hello Everyone!

I wanted to take a minute to thank everyone who helped support me in  my journey to winning the the Miss Bikini Universe title! 

First I want to say that it is such a blessing and I am so grateful for this honor!  There is no way I could have done any of this on my own.  Life is all about surrounding yourself with loving, supportive people who want to help you be a better person, and then returning the favor.

I’m not gonna lie…  I had some serious “bumps” and rough patches along the way!  There will always be bad days, naysayers, doubt, and it will definitely NEVER feel like a convenient time to acheive your goals — I’m pretty sure life would have to come to a screeching halt in order for that to happen.  I’ve learned so much about myself,  realationships, success, failing, getting back up and failing again.  These things take serious time!  Do NOT ever give up on yourself…  Most days you are your only cheerleader!  It starts with you and your attitude (it really is everything, ya hear me!).  Get out of your own way and remeber you can’t be great at anything you have not practiced.  No one is an expert when they begin.  You can do anything you dream, so start dreaming BIG!

 

Thanks so much,

Lori Harder


Summer Time

AAAAAAHHHHHHHH….  Summer is here.  Time to kick back, relax and enjoy the long, hot, lazy days with a Mint Julip and over sized sun hat, right?  WRONG!!!  Where the heck do you live –  San Antonio circa 1836?  Where I live the summer is non-stop from start to finish.  We are traveling, spending time outdoors and going to get-togethers from the second the temp is above 5o degrees ’till the first snow flakes start falling.  We have to jam it all in to make good use of our weather! 

This time of year is not always easy to stay on track with our nutrition and training.  There is a temptation lurking around every checkered table cloth.  We don’t have to make it so hard on ourselves if we just change our attitude and remain PREPARED at all times.  You know what each party, picnic and day on the boat brings.  Bring plenty of food to off-set whatever “salad”  swimming in mayo and noodles may be there.   You will end up enjoying the days activities so much more because you will feel so “light” and full of energy all day! 

There is no longer a need to dread all of the parties because there is nothing healthy to eat.  Let ‘em think you’re crazy and bring your own food!  When it’s all said and done, the only person’s opinion of you that is important is your own! 

Summer means fresh food, fruit,veggies and GRILLING!  Put anything on the grill and it is “gourmet” in my personal opinion.  Let your imagination run wild.  While everyone else is getting loaded and eating hot dogs, you can be eating grilled Bison filet, mushrooms, onions, seafood, chicken, fish, apples, mango, sweet potato, corn on the cob  and whatever else you can think of.  While they are sleeping off a food induced hangover, you will be up early to see the best part of the day and ready for a killer, outdoor, endorphin releasing workout!  This leaves you with plenty of time to throw on your new two-piece and show off your healthy beach bod!  Sounds to me like we have a trip to the Farmer’s Market coming up and swimwear to purchase!  Way better than a couple hours of guilt ridden pleasure! 

Enjoy summer the way it was meant to be enjoyed! Keep it  healthy, happy and ACTIVE!

Thanks for listening,

Lori Harder

Minneapolis Personal Trainer and Nutrition Consultant

CSF Minnesota Fitness Competition and Stage prep Coach/Ambassador


Journaling

Hello Everyone!

I just wanted to share a quick thought that I had while I was at the gym today.  I have recently been taking notes on what I have done in the past when I accomplished a goal or felt successful in something so I could duplicate my actions.  It occurred to me that it would be great idea for my clients to write down not only when they felt most successful and good about themselves, but also  notice when they don’t feel good and they feel their goal is out of reach.  If we know what our stumbling blocks are, we can create a course of action to take when these things arise again.  Weather it’s going out, hanging with a certain group of Negative Nelly’s, or just not having healthy food on hand, these things can EASILY be  tackled  if you have a plan!  There should be no reason you can’t stick to your guns if you know what to do when challenges come up!  Let’s face it people,  life is not getting any easier.  But I bet if you met some of those fabulous goals on your list, the tough stuff wouldn’t feel so bad anymore.

Have the best week!

Lori


Reaching Goals

Hello Everyone!

I had a client ask me the other day if any of my clients who are successful in reaching their goals begin to receive criticism when they start to lose noticeable weight.  The answer I told her was “YES, all of them!” 

There are so many transformations going on with clients that are successful that even they don’t realize.  When you are over weight and unhappy there are reasons and actions that got you to that place.  In order to lose the weight, become stronger and keep it off,  a complete lifestyle makeover begins.  

When you start changing into the healthy person you want to be, this will affect some people in your life.  You may not be as available for them in the ways you were before…  Remember Jane who you meet for happy hour and appetizers every Monday after work?  You’d sit for hours and drink 2-for-1 wine while you complain about everyone you know, right?  How about Jill who loves to get together with you to watch the Bachelor and demolish a large deep dish, Chicago style pizza?  I am not even going to mention what happens when you travel to the in-laws house for the weekend…  Now I am not saying you have to get rid of  Jill and Jane and avoid your mother-in-law’s cooking like the plague, but I am saying you have to change what you do when these situations come up again. 

There are so many things we can do to replace our old unhealthy habits.  If you are going to be somewhere visiting for a meal, be sure you offer to help cook.   I like to always bring a dish and a veggie tray.  This is especially appreciated when you are a host.  Instead of going for cocktails ask your friends to sign up for a new class at your gym.   The list of things you can still do for fun are endless!  Try these ideas:  go to a movie and  grab a salad out,  plan a night of cooking some healthy food together, shop, get coffee and pedicures, or rent a movie and order some healthy take-out sushi.  I don’t know about you, but this all sounds pretty fun to me!

Now, I understand that not all people are going to be “on board”  with your new healthy lifestyle — this is where you have to weigh what makes you truly happy.  Was it the couple of hours, 1-2 nights a week that kept you from hitting your goals?  Or is it feeling great, having endless energy and getting everything you want out of life? 

We all deserve to be happy and that means that sometimes we will have to make sacrifices in order to do so.  You will have so much more support if you try to include people in a positive way during your journey.  Remind them why you need this and let them know how much it means to you to take control of your life and try to achieve real happiness!  If you are still including them in your life, they have no reason to be upset with you.  Most likely you will find they are after the same thing;)

Thanks for listening!

Lori Harder


New Web Site

Hello Everyone,
Thanks for stopping by my NEW site!   This has been a labor of love and I am so excited to finally share my fitness journey, tips, secrets, recipes, inspirational clients and so much more!

I want to take a minute to thank the people who have helped me turn this dream into a reality.

To my husband Chris,  thank you from the bottom of heart for always being my biggest fan and giving me “tough love”  even when I don’t want to hear it.   Thank you for always listening,  and having an even bigger vision than I did!

Extra special thanks to my fitness coaches and mentors, Cathy Savage and Lindsay Messina for believing  and seeing things in me that I did not.  I will never be able to thank you for all that you have done.  I have made lifelong friends and memories and learned invaluable lessons that I will forever cherish.  You always make me strive to do more and be a better human being.

Deepest thanks to my family and friends for always being so loving and supportive.  I thrive when I am around all of you.  You are truly my way to re-energize and get built up again.  Without you, NONE of this would be any fun!

Lastly, I want to give a shout out to my web designer, Joseph who helped me piece together all of my crazy thoughts and ideas into one beautiful, organized site!

Thank you all so much!  Please check back often for the latest on all things fitness!  I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoy doing it!

With Love,
Lori Harder


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